Monday, October 8, 2012

Ada Apa Dengan "Relationship?"

In the wider spectrum of things, let's talk about romantic relationship. I had today been a privy to several romantic relationships. Of people that I know of intimately or some passing acquaintances. Some are currently in the stage of an early relationship, while for some, let's just say they have passed the honeymoon stages. While time is not a factor when you're in a romantic relationship, they have one thing in common - being neglected by the partner.  Even to an old singleton as yours truly, oh I know just the feeling. Why, my last serious relationship ended like a million years ago. Why? Because of neglects. I did all the works and trimmings while my ex, let's just say, he was a taker, not a giver. So, we played this 'Liz and Dick Games' for a while but eventually, it became so tiresome. I was no longer interested in the game. I wanted out and well, here I am.

Well, I'm not a bloody shrink nor a relationship coach. Definitely not a Swami-ji, nor a Love Guru. What I learned about relationships are merely from my own personal take and experiences. From other people's relationships. God knows, the entire planet is sucking it up. Every seconds, there are newborn babies, new love, new engagements, new marriages, new divorces, and finally deaths. Then the cycles are repeated again and again. That's the way our universe is shaped. It's predestined. It's preordained.

So, what makes a successful relationship? I'm not saying about a perfect relationship cause there's no such thing as perfect relationship. If you believe it so, I suggest you to go and bang your head off to the nearest, available concrete! Cynical, right? But it's the bloody truth.

These are my definition of relationship:

"Relationship is not a "Going Dutch" thing. It's an investment of your time, your dedication, your care, your thought, your attitude, your energy and your love to a partner. If you're investing in a relationship, make sure you are prepared to make a fool out of yourself, to dwell with silliness, hormonal bitchiness, psychotic behavior, unreasonable demands and NEVER succumb to forbidden temptation!
Having said that, relationship is NOT your meal ticket, to consume your partner until what remains is an empty husk of his/her soul."

In the end, whenever I'm in a relationship, I do my best to keep my end of the bargain. Of course, I'll be flawed but if I do love someone, I'll be damned if I let him go without some fight. Fight for your love and never, ever neglect your loved ones. 

Signing off now. Ciao! 


  1. i like the definition Enniebelle.. want to copy it k..

  2. love the last sentence "Fight for your love and never, ever neglect your loved ones".. :)

  3. Apa2 pun..... pndai2 pilih pasangan... silap pilih... merana.. Jodoh d tangan Tuhan.

    1. Betul tu! Tidak maulah jadi macam perkahwinan Hollywood.


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